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March 13, 2016

California Calling: 11 Things You Miss When You Leave The State

As I’ve mentioned in the past, I grew up in Southern California. It’s always amusing to me, the reactions that you get from people when they find out. I never really thought about it being a big deal until I actually left California in 2009. I lived there for 29 years and now I know that I took it for granted. For people that have never visited California or have only been to Northern California or only to Los Angeles, you mention California and they picture something like what I have posted above. And in many cases, that isn’t far from the truth. Yes. Many parts of California, especially Southern, has lots of palm trees, beaches, beautiful sunsets behind the towering skyscrapers and plenty of mountains surrounding everything. But it’s also not 100% accurate. There are plenty of small towns, plenty of places with no palm trees and no oceans and tons of fog/clouds/smog covering everything so that you can’t see the beautiful sunsets. And then there’s also this:

And this, this is where I grew up. Antelope Valley, California. Right smack dab in the middle of the Mojave Desert, surrounded by the San Bernardino mountains. Where the temperatures sky rocket to 110, daily, in the summer and it’s not unheard of for snow to fall in the winter. Located about 90 minutes north of Los Angeles proper and at least 45 minutes away from a beach. We moved here when I was 9, to get away from the gangs and the violence and the drugs that were invading the San Fernando Valley where I was born. But regardless, if you live in California for any length of time and leave, you miss it. I’ve been back once since I left in 2009 and in two weeks, I’m going back again. I’m visiting Northern California to see my Uncle and cousin and I’m thrilled because aside from the fact that I miss them like crazy, there are others things I miss. Which brings me to my list:

11 Things That You Will DEFINITELY Miss When You Leave California Behind:

01) GOOD Mexican Food: Growing up in Southern California (and living in San Diego as an adult) you quickly become spoiled by the amazing Mexican food that is literally found on every corner. In fact, my ex-fiance and I made it a habit of trying as many different places as we could find and we discovered that the best Mexican food was found at the hole-in-the-wall type places that you usually think you’d want to avoid. Ugh. I could seriously go for a California burrito right now. Huge flour tortilla smothered with Carne asada, guacamole, sour cream, rice, beans, pico de gallo and topped with FRIES. Yum!

02) Ripe Avocados Everywhere: I LOVE avocados. They are basically a Californian staple. One of the best after school snacks my mom would give me was a slice of multi-grain bread smeared with avocado and a pinch of coarse kosher salt on top. And while you can still find avocados in the PNW or back east, you have to wait for them to ripen. This was unheard of to me. I’m so used to going to the store, picking up some avocados and using them that day. But nope. Not anymore. I know now to plan any dishes at least two days in advance. What can I say? We Californians are spoiled when it comes to produce.

03) Sandy Beaches: Because I lived in a desert, I didn’t exactly have easy access to a beach but my family went every summer and when we went camping, we often chose beach campgrounds. We’d have a blast chasing each other in the water, body surfing and running around the miles and miles of sandy beaches. We often ended the beach days with building sand castles, and boy would we have sand everywhere! Since leaving California I’ve come across maybe two somewhat sandy beaches. And when I asked about them I received incredulous looks. “You have sand on your beaches?!” One Washingtonian asked me. Oh yes. Yes we do. I can’t even imagine playing volleyball on these rocky beaches. OUCH.

04) Alcohol Freedom: I’m not a huge drinker but when I do drink I’ve always enjoyed being able to run across the street to Safeway or up the block to the gas station to pick up my wine coolers, beer, whiskey or champagne. It was just something you did and didn’t think twice about, so you can imagine my surprise when I moved to New Jersey and discovered what a “dry town” was. Ditto Washington, but only when I first moved here. My part of the state now has liquor in grocery stores and the like. But in the beginning, it was a huge shock to me that you actually had to drive 10 miles to the nearest liquor store.

05) Buses, Cabs, Trains, oh my!: In a large state like California, no matter where you are you usually have access to mass transit. Even in my desert town we had buses, cabs and trains and they all ran fairly late (cabs were 24/7) and decently priced. My town in Washington has buses and cabs but the buses stop by 8pm and there is NO Sunday service at all. Cabs exist and are actually decently priced but there are no trains in the area. When I lived in New Jersey and Pennsylvania there were no cabs, no trains in the area and the buses stopped at 6pm. It was crazy!

06) Racial Acceptance: Now I’m certainly not saying that California is perfect. It’s not, hell no. But when I lived there, people of all races were pretty much accepted. (Religion is another story. Definitely experienced issues with that one) Which is why I was unprepared for the switch to the East Coast where I heard the “N” word being dropped on an almost daily basis. Children, teens, adults and the elderly, everyone said it and I visibly cringed when I heard it. You just didn’t do that in Southern California, or the majority of the state.

07) The California State of Speech: One important thing I learned after leaving California? We have an accent. It’s subtle but it’s there. The majority of us pronounce words like Canada or California as if they were “Keh-nada” or “Keh-lifornia.” It’s taken me a lot of time to stop doing that because otherwise, EVERYONE comments on it. Also, the amount of looks you get for saying “Dude,” “Awesome,” or “Rad.” I say all three of those and I say them often. Everything is awesome (like me, duh) and everyone is Dude. Doesn’t matter if you are male or female, you’re Dude.

08) Hey There Slugger!: Our nation’s pastime should really just be called California’s pastime. We love Baseball in California. That’s not to say that we don’t love other sports. We do. But we LOVE our baseball. And it makes sense. We have two of the biggest baseball teams in California. The Los Angeles Dodgers (GO DODGERS) and The San Francisco Giants (BOO, HISS). There’s nothing better than spending a day in the sun and cheering on your favorite team with a huge foot-long hotdog and a frosty glass of beer.

09) Palm Trees: They just scream California. Especially Southern California. Enough said.

10) The Rose Bowl: From raging football games to explosive concerts to ginormous flea markets, The Rose Bowl is a must for every Californian and so many of the greatest things happen there.

11) Freeways: Real, winding freeways seem to be a rarity unless you live in California. I mean, there aren’t many places where you see things like, well, THAT ^. But what’s amusing is when you say something like “So you merge onto the 3 and then merge slightly onto the 16.” Apparently it’s not normal to refer to a freeway as THE. Which is something we do everyday in California. “Oh yeah, just take the 405 to the 5 to the 14.” But here, it’s Washington 3, or simply, “the highway.”

One thing you won’t find on my list however, is In-N-Out. I think I’m in the minority with this opinion but I’m not a huge fan of them. I find their patties really small, the food is all terribly greasy and it’s boring to me. Apparently the best way to try them is “Animal Style” but I really dislike thousand island dressing, so I never have. I’ve never seen the appeal and would rather eat anywhere else than In-N-Out.

I guess we do tend to take certain things for granted in California. And it’s not something we mean to do, but it happens. I’ve definitely come to miss things that were “normal” for me and now I appreciate them even more when I experience them, so that’s one good thing. And there’s plenty of horrible things about California too: it’s way overpriced, the taxes are stupid ridiculous, the traffic is a nightmare, and smog is a real problem. And even though I still find myself missing it terribly from time to time, and even though I’m glad I made the move and got to experience different states and coasts, a part of me will forever miss California and will keep it tucked away in my heart. In the end, it’s my home.

What things would you miss the most if you left your home state/country? Or if you have left it, what things do you miss the most now? I’d love to hear all about it in the comments!

March 6, 2016

One hot minute

Almost two months to the day since I last blogged and it has been ridiculously intense. I would say sorry but honestly, I’m not. Sometimes you need a break, even an unplanned one, and sometimes you just need to not say sorry. Which is in fact a goal that I am working towards this year. Quit saying sorry. I seriously say it way too much. But moving on, this will probably be easiest done in list form. So I present to you:

The 5 Crazy Ridiculous Things That Have Happened The Last two Months

01) All the Single Ladies: Welp. I’m single again. I’m okay, honestly, and so is C. We’re still friends, we still talk. But we almost never saw each other because of our conflicting work schedules. Add to that the fact that he was never really willing to come to my area because he “doesn’t like it” plus the fact that he didn’t want children at all, after all, and well, that pretty much summed it up. Very sweet guy. In fact, probably the sweetest guy I’ve ever dated and he never cheated on me or hit me, so hey, aces! (The not cheating part is actually a first for me. Every ex of mine has.) I was sad, but I knew it was coming and I’m pretty sure he did too. I honestly wish him all the luck in finding a woman better matched for him and hope all the best for him. I’d be there for him if he needed me and I know he would for me. In fact, he’s already helped me out. Which brings us to number 2.

Valentine's Day movie time
(How I spent my Valentine’s Day and my brand new tower!)

02) Welcome to the Future: I splurged and spent my tax return on myself. Completely and utterly. It’s also the first time in … oh about 8 years that I haven’t had to use my tax return to pay my rent or pay off late bills. So I treated myself to a brand new desktop PC. And I’m in love. I loved my laptop but I bought it in 2011 and it’s … really slow. Plus I used to be somewhat of a gamer and I missed playing games. My laptop couldn’t run them. Not easily anyway. So I made the leap. I will say, at first I regretted it. It came with Windows 10 installed and it was a FUCKING disaster. C, actually came to my rescue and fixed my new desktop, not once, but twice. And now with that poisonous WinBLOWS 10 off, and Windows 7 on it, I’ve not had one problem. And now I can easily blog without my pc lagging like crazy. YAY! And that’s partially why I was gone for so long. On that laptop, blogging became a chore and it should never be that way.

03) Just Call Me Troublemaker: I’ve mentioned before that there have been issues at my work. And sadly, they’ve continued. After the holidays, our manager stepped down and switched new departments and I was really happy to have someone knew. Plus we got a new food manager so I thought things would be turning around. They haven’t. It got to bad that I had to file a grievance against our food manager because he was giving me 24 hours and giving the newest (MALE) employee in our department, 40 hours. Which is against the union contract. So I’ve gotten my hours back but it feels like everyone hates. Said male employee barely talks to me. The food manager had me work 12 days straight and only gave me 3 days off in 21 days plus when I came down with a stomach bug (oh I wonder how I could have gotten sick…) he threw a fit that I called out. Our new manager seems to be buying into the story that I’m a huge troublemaker and has basically had me turn into Cinderella. Seriously, I do all the cleaning. All of it. It’s gotten so bad that my roommate, who is my co-worker (we coined the term “froomer” for friend-roommate-coworker) has actually decided to transfer to another store to get away from our food manager and our racist store manager. So why do I stay? I worked to hard to get the money that I make now, I have job security because no matter how much they hate it, I’ve never done anything wrong and I get medical. Full medical. Can’t leave that.

04) Blasts From The Past: In the last week, not one but TWO old flames have come back asking to talk to them again and/or date them again. I’m not interested. They’re in the past for a reason. But it’s a nice feeling when attractive men come back and tell you they need you in their lives again. For now though, I’m perfectly content to work hard, go on lots of long walks, cuddle up with my kitten Adonis and read or marathon the show GIRLS which I only keep watching because of Adam Driver’s character, Adam Sackler. Seriously. I want an Adam Sackler in my life. Boyfriend goals man. (At least for now – only on beginning of season 3 so no spoilers!)

05) The Light At The End: But it’s not all bad news. My new PC is up and running and kicks some major ass. I freaking love Skyrim! I’m finally able to start saving money. And it feels great. I have almost $300 in savings and all my bills are paid. It doesn’t sound like much, but it’s a nice feeling. And in less than a month, I’ll be on a flight to California! I’ll be seeing my uncle and cousin and their family and enjoy staying in San Marcos for a weekend, a weekend that I definitely deserve.

So, that’s my life. How has yours been? I’ve missed you guys! I want to hear all about your stories. I’ve had nothing but issues with my old comment system so for now, I have Disqus. I’d love it if you’d leave a comment and I WILL reply back! In the meantime, I leave you with this awesome playlist I found on 8 tracks. Give it a listen and enjoy!